Have you ever felt that your husband/partner might be not who you thought he was? Does your spouse drive you insane? Things may not be the 'happy
Have you ever felt that your husband/partner might be not who you thought he was? Does your spouse drive you insane?
Things may not be the ‘happy ending’ you were expecting after tying the knot, and sometimes we unconscously do things that our loved one doesn’t like, but have you ever thought that maybe your husband/wife was sending you love languages all along? What are love languages?
Every person has their own love language. These are the things that a person expresses their love, and it varies on how the person was brought up or the environment the person was used to.
A famous marriage counselor, Gary Champman, said that “there are five kinds of love language that we must consider to fully understand our loved one to make things work with them.”
1. QUALITY TIME
Time is the most expensive thing a person could give and to some poeple, spending time with them or doing activities together can strengthen their love. Going on dates, or a romantic cruise after a hectic work week is a an expression of love language. Spending time at home watching your favorite movie or just by simply talking and listening, sharing your worse days, worries and fears are also some of the things you can do with your spouse.
2. PHYSICAL TOUCH
To some, a hug or embrace is their way of showing affection to their loved one. It is a poweful way to show your feelings without using words.
Another example of this love language is sex. The way you aim to pleasure your partner, each touch and caress shows your love language.
3. WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
For others, they express their love by saying their feelings, compliments or whispering sweet words. They could be praising you in front of their family, friends and collegues or maybe giving you encouraging words to support you in your endeavors.
4. RECIEVING GIFTS
Giving gifts can be expressed by giving your loved one a flower bouquet, maybe a homemade box of chocolates or a much needed pair of socks. Whatever it may be, a gift from your loved one is a love language.
5. ACTS OF SERVICE
One of the most common love language as it can be an act of kindness or care. They might have been taking care of you while your sick or buying your favorite birthday cake. Others cook their spouse’s favorite meal, or do laundry. Any service they give could be their act of love even opening doors for you is an act of service.
It is best to know which love language your spouse appreciates more. Once you’ve identified them, it would be easy to please them and understand that what they are doing are because they love you.